If you think you're going insane That's normal If all you do is cry That's normal If you have trouble with most minor decisions That's normal If you have feelings of rage , denial and depression That's normal If your friends dwindle away and you feel like ypou have the plague That's normal If your blood boils and hairs on your arm curl when someone tells you it is god's will That's normal If you can't talk about it but you can smash dishes or kick the rubbish down the street That's normal If you can share your story, your feelings with an understanding listener another bereaved person That's beginning If you get a glimmer of your loved one's life , rather than their death That's wonderful If you can remember your loved one's smile That's healing If you find your mirrors have become windows and you are able to reach out to other people Thats growing Allister i am not there yet Love you MUM xxxx

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